Every girl is looking for a good guy. Even those who claim that they have an obsession with bad boys secretly wish that their bad boy is a good guy at heart. Here are ten characteristics to look out for in the next guy you date:
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1. He does good deeds even when no one is watching
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It is one thing to do good when there are many people around to acknowledge your deed, and another to do it when only you yourself will know. I once saw a guy who, upon seeing a toppled potted plant, diverted his path and went to right it. He was a guy of small frame and the plant was massive. Instead of leaving it when he couldn’t get it up with his one free hand with the thought of “I tried” as a consolation, he put down all the items he was carrying and pitted his entire weight into righting the tree.
Long story short ladies, if he bothers to put in so much effort to do a good deed for no reward, he will do the same for you. After all, you’re not just a plant.
2. He treats his family well
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A guy who takes his parents for granted and talks flippantly to them will eventually do the same to you. He may treat you like a queen for now, but eventually you will be the person he vents out on. A guy who treats his family well will treat you well.
3. He knows how to take jokes
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A good guy will not get easily insulted over some light-hearted quip over his recent missed basket or getting scared by a tiny insect, he’ll take it in his stride. If a guy can laugh at himself, and more importantly allow others to do the same, it’s as strong as indicator as any of his self-confidence.
4. He is good with children
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There’s just something about seeing a guy make funny faces or chase a child around a room. Aside from the sheer cuteness of his attempts to goo goo ga ga at a child, the way that he doesn’t care about maintaining a cool image shows that he is self assured and willing to do anything for you, even if it means making him look stupid. What’s more, kids have a mysterious knack for being able to tell good guys from bad guys. If the kids like him, well, ‘nuff said.
5. He is as nice to others as he is to you
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It’s easy for a guy to be nice to just one person, but being nice to others, from the random stranger to that introverted geeky girl that everyone finds a little weird, is not something everyone can do. Extending care beyond your loved ones, is something that comes from within, and is hard to teach.
6. He stands up for something
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Whether he is usually opinionated or he generally dislikes conflict, every good guy has certain beliefs that he will stick to. The confidence he has in certain issues shows a guy that is thoughtful and stands by his word.
7. He notices when something is on your mind
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You needn’t have to say a word, you may even be trying your best to hide it from everyone. Yes, you may have done a good job with the rest of the world, but you can’t hide it from him. Good guys have a natural intuition when something is troubling you.
Maybe it isn’t so much intuition as it is the fact that unlike much of the population, they are less self absorbed and hence able to notice things in other people.
8. He doesn’t forget to say “Thank You”
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Many forget to be thankful for the things people do for us, which is a fundamental of good character. A guy that understands the value of gratitude is one that is good at heart.
9. He makes good on his promises
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We have learnt from our younger days that pinky promises are sacred. Although we hardly use our pinkys anymore, this still holds true. When we make a promise, we not only make a commitment, you allow someone to put their faith in you. A guy unapologetic of breaking promises, even if it’s the smallest of promises, is simply not worth your hope.
10. He makes you feel like the best version of yourself
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He’s the one that makes even your worst hair day fade into unimportance. He’s the guy that tries to make you feel better after a bad interview, and actually succeeds. A guy that lets all your insecurities slip away and helps you focus on what makes you beautiful both outside and in, will be thoughtful, caring and all sorts of good.
He may be the quiet sensitive guy reading a book in your neighbourhood Starbucks or the loud rowdy guy in the row behind you at your younger brother’s basketball game, but ultimately if he’s a good guy you’ll know it. It’ll resonate from him in his words and actions, be it from something so small as helping an elderly woman collect her coffee or cheering for the opponent team’s injured star player to get back in the game, a good guy is not easily hidden. You’ll simply just know.