The feeling of falling in love is always wonderful. Some call it the “endless climax”, where thrill and adrenaline intricately entwine with each other and make you all jittery inside, in a good way. You see, being in love and falling in love are two entirely different matters. In fact they are complete parallel universes. Being in love comes after falling in love, and that’s when your feelings for the other is confirmed and has taken the next step.
1. Falling in Love – The Beauty of It
What about the fall? It’s the point of enlightenment – how every movement, every word or every emotion of hers or him makes you wonder, ponder and takes your breath away – all in delight. Anything they do – the tiniest motion, the way they sound, talk, how they act, or the ways his fingers caress his chin when he is listening to you – it makes us insanely charmed. There’s nothing you don’t think about when it comes to that person – how those strands of hair falling next to her face make you want to ease it behind her ear so badly, or how the crinkles around his eyes when he laughs make you want to kiss them gently. Suddenly that song that you hate becomes your favourite, or that sappy romance love song makes so much sense. Okay maybe I am over-exaggerating – but you know what I mean! You see, when we fall in love, we feel an immense amount of hope bubbling inside of us. We think about how this guy is going to be the boyfriend that everyone will love, or how this lady is going to make me look forward coming home to every single day. Our minds conjure up so many hopeful, positive possibilities and scenarios that makes us overwhelmed.
Falling in love is more powerful than being in love. Why? That’s when you unconsciously start to become selfless, caring, thoughtful – qualities that wouldn’t portray easily. You will want to be the best of what you can be when you are with the person, and it drives you with such intensity to become a better person.
2. Beware about the fall – you can “fall” as well
In that entire state, it makes everything insensible sensible. Beautiful, but scary. How it can entirely influence certain decisions within a short span of time, just because that red, furry little heart inside of you has been moved. Remember that hope that spreads like wildfire in you when you fall in love? It can act as a doubleedged sword. You always hope for the best, even though circumstances spell otherwise. Because the entire motion of falling in love is so strong, it conditions our minds to believe what they want to believe, not what should be believed.
Logic isn’t logical anymore, not quite. Negative emotions – self-denial – seems to be perfectly okay – you feel like you can take on anything in the world just for this person despite knowing the obvious or potential hurdles that will inexplicably make life a little bit more difficult for you.
3. Truth is, take a leap of faith.
It’s scary – how letting yourself succumb to this deadly, beautiful feeling can sometimes end up hurting you more. They used to say love is irrational, or love makes one blind. But seriously – I’m not capable of being entirely rational when I’m falling in love. Heck – I imagine all the best-case scenarios (although I do think of the worst ones but they have absolutely less than 1% priority) with the person. It makes me want to take a leap of faith, and give my best shot. Is this me being stupid? Maybe. Is this me being irrational? Perhaps.
But as we all know – life is about giving your best – with (or without) calculated risks. I’d rather fall in love, be in love, than to be alone and be best friends with what-ifs. Sometimes the brain can take the backseat, and the heart can take the front wheel. There’s so much that we don’t know, but this is what I know – we are made to love, to be loved and to make love.