In a perfect world, women want a Nobel prize winner with movie-star looks, yet we live in a world of limited resources, so not every woman gets what she wants, and some are bound to fall for unintelligent, unsexy and uncreative men.
These says with the infiltration of plastic surgery …you could very well get the best of both worlds. *snigger*
Anyhoo I’ll like to know your take on this issue. Having dated a really good looker, as well as a brainiac, I think I’ve decided that the brain is perhaps more appealing than brawn. Perhaps you’ll feel otherwise.
Why that geeky guy might very well be worth it
An exerpt from which some anonymous person posted on Craigslist:
In the wide world of dating, there are many options. Should you go for the flashy guy with the smooth smile, or the dude in the corner typing away on his laptop? The following are reasons why I think you ladies should pay more attention to the geeky guy that’s been always there for you, and less attention to the flashy boys.
1. While geeks and nerds may be awkward, they’re well-meaning 9 out of 10 times. That smooth dude with the smug face and the spider hands? Wonder what HIS intentions are …hmm
2. They’re useful. In this tech-savvy world, it’s great to have a boyfriend who can make your laptop, desktop, and just about anything else that plugs into a wall behave itself.
3. They’re more romantic than they’re given credit for. Ok true, their idea of romance might be to make up a spiffy web-page with all the reasons why they love you, with links to pics of you and sonnets and such... but hey. It lasts longer than flowers, plus you can show your friends.
4. They’ve got brains. Come on now, how can intelligence be a bad thing?
5. Most are quite good at remembering dates. Like birthdates and such, especially if they know it’ll make you happy. Due again to their neglected status, they’re more attentive than guys who “have more options”. Plus, with all that down time without a steady girlfriend, they’ll likely have mental lists of all the things they’d love to do once they GOT a girlfriend. LOL
6. If he doesn’t want to go someplace with you, you won’t have to worry much about what he’s up to. You’ll probably come home to find him asleep on his keyboard in a sea of Mt. Dew cans with code blinking from the screen. It’s ok. He’s used to this. Just toss a blanket over him and turn out the light.
7. They’re rarely if ever possessive. They trust you, so you can be yourself around them. You like to walk around the house in a ratty t-shirt for comfort? He won’t care. He does too! They won’t get pissy if you don’t wear make-up or don’t want to bother primping your hair. If you gain a few pounds, they won’t try their best to make you feel like crap.
8. And the final reason why geeks and nerds make great boyfriends: They actually give a damn about you. Not how you look (though that’s a plus), not how skinny you are, not how much make-up you wear, because they like you for you.
The science behind it all
A Californian study shows that women who are not on the Pill favour intelligent, creative men when they are most likely to conceive, and men with greater wealth at other times of the month.
And in yet another study lead it is said that "Women want the best of both worlds. Not only a physically attractive man, but somebody in the long term who can provide for them," says Mark Prokosch, an evolutionary psychologist at Elon University in North Carolina, who led the study.
To many women, a smart man will appeal because he is likely to be clever enough to keep his family afloat. But he may also pass on "good" genes to his children, say Prokosch and his colleagues at the University of California, Davis.
Rather than ask women to rate qualities they seek in men, as other studies had done, Prokosch's team asked 15 college men to perform a series of tasks on camera.
The volunteers read news reports, explained why they would be a good date, and what would be the ramifications of the discovery of life on Mars. They also threw and caught a Frisbee to parade their physical appeal. Each potential suitor also took a quantitative test of verbal intelligence.
More than 200 women watched a series of these videos before rating each man's intelligence, attractiveness, creativity and appeal for a short-term or long-term relationship.
Prokosch says. In potential husbands, women look for signs that a man might be a good provider and father. In one-night stands, women are on the prowl for little more than good genes, not to mention a good time.
Women proved to be decent judges of intelligence, with their scores generally matching each man's intelligence test results.
As for picking a bed-mate, the men's actual smartness proved a reliable indicator of their appeal for both brief hook-ups and serious relationships – which came as something of a surprise. Other studies have suggested that, for women anticipating short-term relationships, a man's braininess isn't foremost in their minds. Why? Because in a fling, it is quite possible that the lady isn’t thinking or using her brain that much either? Too focused on something short time I say.
The disparate results may be due to women's lack of awareness that intelligence also affects the attractiveness of candidates for quick flings – how intelligent women perceived a man to be, influenced his desirability as a long-term mate much more than his appeal for a one-night stand.