I have been with Simon for close to 7 years and we are getting married next Valentine’s Day.
Those who know me and/or about our relationship never once asked before if I ever doubt he is the right one. From what they see and hear, they always tell me that I’m very lucky and I have a very good boyfriend.
Last year, my colleague asked me how I know if he is the right one. I was quite stunned because I have never thought about this before.
My initial answer was I don’t know and I actually felt stress about my answer because I’m worried that I’m actually doubting him. But the truth is I do know he is the one. I have been with him for so long and I can totally see what is installed for us in the future. When someone asked such a question, I just have no words to describe it because it is all based on feelings, chemistry and the time that we spent with each other.
I really think that there are no words to describe love or if someone is the right partner. (At least for me). Of course sometimes bad things do happen, but what's most important is that I’m sure of what I want and I’m totally happy with it, and well it applies to you too.
And of course other than the strong intuition that I have.. Simon is definitely the best boyfriend one can ever have. I hate to type this to boost his ego but yes I can’t deny this fact. I am super lucky and fortunate to meet him because he totally changed my life. I didn’t think I would go to poly, I didn’t think I could recover from my eating disorder, I didn’t think I could ever find my self esteem and confidence, I didn’t think I could ever have someone to rely on and to trust in if I didn’t meet him. Well.. I can’t tell my grandmother everything right..
I don’t have my parents to rely on and have been practically very ‘alone’ all my life. But Simon is like my father, my brother, my teacher and my best friend. I share everything with him, I don’t need to hide anything from him which is kind of bad too because sometimes I just tell him EVERYTHING. But it feels really good when you can tell someone just everything.
I am his first girlfriend and I feel super fortunate because he has no one to compare to and to be honest, I’m not a very good girlfriend because I am very stubborn and hot tempered. He really tries his very best to accommodate to my PMS and my mood swings. Not all guys are like this one okay..
He supports me in every single thing, from me being in polytechnic, to work and deciding to go back to university and to me quitting my job when we are going to have our wedding and getting our flat soon.
We walked through many stress periods before but we always try to make the obstacles fun even though things can get a little too difficult sometimes.
Simon is also a boyfriend that never says NO to his girlfriend (me). Well he dislikes me going to clubs (in the past) and another thing is me wanting to apply for SQ. He dislikes me talking about plastic surgery too. Even though he can be really upset but he will say yes if I go pushy and soft on him. I know how he is like, and I don’t do that. So for the above 3, I’m erasing them off my list even though I still nag about it. :P
He has all the good points but the most important thing is I see myself in his eyes, his actions and his life. I know I’m always his priority. In all sorts of things, I’m always the priority, he will always ask me how I feel and think about whatever the next thing is going to be, and he will make his decision after what I say.
He is very selfless and he always thinks about me.
He gets sad when I’m sad.
He is willing to do anything just to make me happy.
He always gets me the things that I want/need even when I say no. For example I may nag that my video is not good enough then he will look around to find better camera, lens or .. now i got a go pro! :O
He is willing to put down his pride if there’s a need to for whatever matters that relate to me.
He will never take a proper photo. -__-
There are so many so many things to say but I’m going to stop here because I just need to know he is the right person for me. :) Of course every couple quarrel once in awhile and we get angry with each other and complain to our friends, but these kind of things happen to every couple and we can only learn from our unhappiness and move on, be closer and get better. I do believe that arguments bring couples closer though.
Can’t wait to finally live together!
With that said, I really feel super fortunate that Simon stepped into my life and feel super blessed about this. Really thank God! The previous crazy ‘relationships’ were definitely worth it in exchange for this.
So this is how I think Simon is the right one? LOL!
I have found my happiness, and I wish that you find yours too! :) All the best.
With love,
Claire