Social Butterflies have one thing in common: they build up the energy of people around them.
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Any person who is very social, funny, and great to be around is considered so because they can actually build up the energy around other people. Those who bring the energy to a conversation, group, or party are making other people feel good, feel included, and they are basically forcing everyone to have a good time.
Here is a step-by-step list of what you need to do in order to really bring the energy to a party. Follow these steps, and you will be a social butterfly in no time at all!
To start, think of a person you know that everyone enjoys being around. Chances are that person has all of the following personality traits; fun, happy, outgoing, and carefree. People will naturally gravitate towards this person because when they are around them, they get a boost to their own energy.
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Socializing is all about energy transferring. If you can make people feel good, they will naturally want to spend more time with you. This will work for making loyal friends, getting someone to fall in love with you, and being a social butterfly at parties. Here is how you can bring the energy to the table:
- Control the Flow of the Conversation
- When people are talking about negative or boring topics, cut the conversation, change the topic and move onto something more people can enjoy.
- Induce positive, interesting, and exciting topics. Mention stories of things that have happened to you recently, or something going on that people can relate to. Ask people questions and keep the conversation interactive.
- Use high energy when speaking. People who speak with no excitement seem generally boring and do not attract a good vibe. Sound alive when you talk and you will easily entrance people around you.
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- Be Physical and Verbal
- Make your stories and conversational habits interactive. Rather than just listing facts, ask other people questions and make them involved.
- Know when to reach out to people during conversation. Put your arm around someone’s shoulder; give your friends hugs when you see them, give people light punches to the arm. Use physicality to make people welcome and have them focused on you during conversation.
- If you happen to interrupt someone, make sure you come back to them in the conversation and allow them to continue what they were talking about. People will admire your calibration.
- Lead The Group
- Be prepared to make decisions and step up to the plate when needed. This is especially true for groups that are lacking in leadership. If you make a suggestion and back it up with a valid reason, people will be inclined to agree with you and follow.
- When the group becomes bored or restless, make sure to cause them some movement. This is an advanced step and requires a good understanding of the group itself.
By focusing on bringing all of the energy to the table, and making the people around you feel good - you will be able to set yourself apart from others in a great way. You will literally make the time people spend with you more fun, more positive, and better all around. These are the essential tips to becoming a social butterfly and are guaranteed to work at your next party or event.