I haven’t been much of a planner type, I rely heavily on my instincts and my problem solving skills when shit happens. As such.. plans I come up with almost always have some things messed up and I would have to do some 'first aid' on-the-go.
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This time round it's planning for the wedding... It's a freaking important thing to most people I believe, and I only have one chance. One ring to rule them a... no that's not right.. I meant one chance to get it right. Sigh.. it's so darn stressful just writing this paragraph.
I think I'm just freaking stress that things will go wrong and because I'm like.. the groom? And I have to be there beside Claire act-one-glam instead of troubleshooting. Troubleshooting is in my blood leh... #$@% Murphy and his Law!
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Anyways I'm coping because you know? I did things to destress, like murdering Murphy, breaking furniture and do marijuana.... NOT. Of course NOT.
Well lemme try and remember what I've been doing... Yah this is it:
Forget everything (temporarily, of course): Like what just happened above, LOL. Not like I'm doing it on purpose, I have this tendency to forget tasks etc to be done and they will always get delayed till... I remember.. Not very helpful huh, let's omit point number 1 then..
Go do something you like: I usually go to MacRitchie Reservoir. Not because it's especially peaceful there, it's just that due to work commitments I ended up somewhere nearby. When I wanna clear my mind from all these messed up plannings I just go there and take some photos of trees and the scenery, stalking bird-birds and sometimes random passerby. All the things I like to do in my free time, I find that doing these things really calms me down and with a mind as calm as a stagnant puddle of wet mud, I can function better.
Coffee: This drink always manages to save my ass no matter the time and place and in all situations. It's like heroin or ketamine or whatever narcotics I can't think of any more, when I'm on the brink of breaking down, one cuppa is all I need to bring me back to the starting line. It's like "No no no I don't wanna do this shit anymore!!" to "What? What's happening here? Oh wedding? What wedding? Wait lemme finish my coffee, don't interrupt this ritual. Zen, people." I recently splurged on some premium equipment to make better filterrf coffee and that really helps too, slowly grinding the coffee beans and enjoying the aroma of freshly grounded coffee. Check out http://blog.myfatpocket.com/claireaudreylim/2015/01/01/simonseries-diaries-of-a-coffee-addict-the-grinding/ if you haven't. It's really therapeutic.
Keep things simple: Bahhh that goes without saying, unless you're marrying our dear PM's daughter (does he have a daughter? Sorry I don't stalk our PM), you might wanna consider not doing a lot of the things you envisioned to do. Cramming lots of items in your itinerary will create lots of logistics issues and tears will drop on your actual day, might not be happy tears you know? Know thy limit, if you're not rich like whoever is the richest guy in the world, don't act like one. It's supposed to be a happy occasion, not fearing to see your next credit card bill and thinking of what to do after your bankruptcy.
Get help: from IMH. No lah, from your personal consultant aka your BFF or family members. Of course this is subjected to availability. Everyone has different types of BFF or BFFs, so it really depends on whether your can rely on your BFFs. I am blessed with quite a few but then I'm always the paiseh-to-trouble-others kind of guy.. And I'm the youngest boy with elder siblings who have their own families. That's why I usually prefer to do everything myself, even though yeah I know that's quite bloody impossible if I don't want screw ups, so... yeah I'll need to summon my friends soon.
Trash it all out: Of course if you're in a situation where you can't do shit about improving your situation, it's always good to just throw everything (that's bothering you or annoying you etc) on the table. In my case, when I get really stressed up, I turn to my personal punching bag (Claire). NO I'M NOT A WIFE-BEATER. BECAUSE SHE AIN'T MY WIFE YET. LOL!! No lah no one was hurt in the process.. I just tell her all the things that's been on my mind and usually she will be able to heal my wounds. She's like the Healer type character, quite dumb, no attack power, but have natural support skills to power up others and heal damages. I hope you all have someone like that in your circle too.
That's about all, I hope it helps. I hope I'm funny too. Hopes and wishes don't always come true though... :(
Yours very sincerely hor,
Simon Tey