Since young, I have always wondered what is love actually all about and I have always pictured love as perfect as the ones I see in fairytale stories.
I pictured love really simple, and the most ridiculous thing I have ever thought is that I didn’t know that love would come along with unhappiness. I mean, love sounds so happy and blissful, how could it even store unhappiness? But well, as I grow old gradually, my definition of love changed.
I realised love is no longer just a feeling itself, and not just because there are mutual feelings things will work out, but it is made up of hundreds, thousands, no… in fact it is countless and countless of effort. I realised love itself can’t overcome everything unless there is effort made by both parties in a relationship, and I realised love isn’t something that will fill my tummy when I am hungry.
To give up what you really like, and to give in to what you disagree, adjust to his/her likings, and sometimes even giving up your principles in life often seem the hardest and I realised that being in a relationship itself really requires more effort than what I had thought initially.
But what keeps the effort going? Love. Love motivates us to work harder for one another; love pushes us to our maximum to make things right, and with love it simply makes everything easier for us. When you are in love with someone, you would want to work hard for the other party just because you want a better future for the both of you and the fruits of your love. When you are in love, you will fight for your tomorrow with courage. When you are in love, you will want both parties to change and improve for the better for each other. When you are in love, you will think all about the other party, and hurting the other party is the last thingyou would ever wanna do. Why? Because the thought of seeing him/her hurt causes you more pain, and it will hurt you more than how he/she is hurting.
Love isn’t a fairytale story anymore for me, but it turned into a motivator for me to make a better future for me and my love. Loving someone isn’t an easy task, but loving him got easier all of the sudden.
I am so glad, that I finally know what love actually is, and I am in love with my best friend.