“Get on top of him use your weight to pin him down, whisper naughtiness into his ears, pull away and look into his eyes. Tell him what you will do to him and what you want him to do to you. Cover his mouth with one hand and use other hand to touch his body; the neck, the collarbone, shoulders, nipples, abdomen moving lower and finally, grab his…”

Sex is a wonderful thing and it’s known that orgasms release Oxytocin, also called the “bonding hormone”. This brings a couple closer together greatly reducing and eliminating stress and anxiety. There have been many articles discussing the sexual needs and wants of women but what does a man want or wished from women in bed?

Well, the following are just some pointers that may just shed some light on what your man secretly wishes for:



Whisper, See, Speak, Touch, Moan and Scream. Use your eyes, fingers (sense of touch), tongue and yes, even your breathing. Don’t be abashed to let out a moan or two and don’t refrain from that screaming pleasure if it’s that good! Enthusiasm is a major turn-on for men.



As good as a driver some men can be, they would always appreciate some directions. For us men what turns the notches of our sexual arousal up is to know we’re hitting the right spots. Let us know where it feels ‘oh gawd that’s so damn good’ for you so we can avoid them ‘what in the bejeezus are you doing there?!’ ones. It turns us on to know you’re turned on.



The perineum is the area between the anus and the testicles. It’s rich with nerve endings and when stimulated in the right way, can produce orgasmic sensations. Also we love it when women gently squeeze, tug and nibble - practically just about everything short of literally devouring- our testicles. So don’t be afraid to linger a while down there and have yourself a ball… or two.



It’d be nice if women could take charge in bed every now and then, be it from initiating sex to taking control in the middle of all the steamy action. It drives us wild when a woman decides to have her ‘ways’ because we never know what we’re in for.



Confidence is a huge turn on and a woman who is confident about her body is sexy. Men are visual creatures so to see a confident woman in her full naked glory certainly gets the blood pumping. Turn up the heat as you take off your clothes.



A nibble here, a bite there, a spanking everywhere, you get the drift. A little necessary roughness adds a whole lotta spice in bed and though it may not be everyone’s cup of tea, it doesn’t hurt (pun intended).



A man gets turned on watching his woman touch herself. The visual stimulation of watching her hands slip and slide all over her body and curves blows a man’s imagination through the roof. Make him watch you as you self masturbate or get him to lie down next to you and do it to each other.



Anal sex. It empowers man to be in control in a primal situation. On an emotional level, the trust involved (given trust by you) elevates intimacy to a whole new level. Though it would make us feel like a million dollars if you’re up for a drive on the Hershey highway, your well-being is still our primary concern and it’s ok if you’re not game.



Men love it when women swallow their load. As with anal sex, it’s down to the primal attraction of power and control. Also as spitting is usually viewed as an act of rejection, when a woman swallow, a man feels ‘accepted’ and that you feel comfortable with him. A tip for women who’re still not convinced; strawberries, watermelon, pineapples are just some fruits and whole food that can improve the taste of your men’s emissions.

Apart from being wonderful and a bonding opportunity, sex should always be consensual. It is great to know what you’re doing in bed pleases your partner and vice versa but there should always be an open communication when it comes to both of your sexual preferences. Have fun, stay safe.