With large number of women facing weight problems, and other image issues, in addition to all of the erotic objectification and denigration that happens in society at large, it is no wonder many women have physical sex hang ups. These hang ups, though pretty common, can result in excessive and unnecessary worry which negatively affects your performance and enjoyment in bed.
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Here are some really common physical hang ups which can ruin your sex life.
1. Worrying about natural bodily functions and sounds
One particular part of sex is definitely the noises that sometimes occur during the action. An additional factor would be the bodily processes. Queefing, grunting, groaning…. Even squirting! I think this hang up is due to the fact we like to feel attractive and in control of what comes from our bodies anytime, especially when nude. Guess what? Practically everyone makes those sounds and have little control over them. The best thing to do is to laugh it off. Laugh it off once, see that your partner feels it’s no big deal and get on with it! I promise you, after that one time, once you’re over the self-conscious hurdle, you won’t even bother about this matter anymore.
2. You think your lady parts are gross
You’ve heard it through gossip at school… about whose vaginas smelll terrible hahaaa. You’ve heard descriptions of oral sex as carpet munching, or vaginal secretions akin to smelling like fish. All nonsense. Groom yourself, be clean, and there is nothing gross about your lady parts. Don’t believe me? Just ask your partner.
3. You’re too self-conscious about your body
Vanity is part of humanity. But how do you know if you’re too concerned with your naked appearance? Well, if you get out of bed naked and sashay to the bathroom on your tippy toes because you know your partner is watching, that’s fine. It’s sexy even. But if you’re lying in bed and instead of looking forward to sex, you’re thinking about how to strategically hide certain body parts, then that’s a giant obstruction to enjoyable sex.
4.You’re always worried about your performance
Are you always thinking you’re doing something wrong? You’re not moving fast enough… you’re not gripping hard enough… or too hard? What?! Every individual is different, and every individual has various preferences and needs. What feels great to one man may feel crap to another. So you will by no means know what is perfect for your partner unless you ask. Don’t concern yourself with your speed, flexibility or agility. Simply talk, and get the answers.