My mum is one of my closest friends, my confidante. When it comes to relationships with people, I’d naturally seek advice from her.
Despite her marriage issues, years of watching my parents actually gave me a sense for what I want (and don’t want) out of love. However, regardless of your parents' relationship or circumstances, mums will always give one of the best love advice as they are more experienced in life and well, mums will tell you the harshest truth.
Here are some mummy advices from my own love experiences:
#1 It’s the little things that count
Don’t be fooled by grand or lavish gestures. These are completely not sustainable (unless your beau is really rich) and they only serve to impress. Look for the little sweet gestures day-by-day – these are the ones that will be served to you for a long time, and they will show how supportive your partner is to you on a daily basis. After all, you want to live with the person for a long time.
#2 Don’t settle for anything
It always seems easier to convince yourself that you can accept anything that’s being thrown to you than to walk away from a meaningless relationship. Mummy says, “Don’t settle”. Once you settle, it means that you are lowering your standards and allowing yourself to accept something that you don’t deserve to. In the long run, you’re only going to one day explode from your suppressed feelings.
#3 Take all the time to find the love you want
“You are still young, you still have time,” is what my mum tells me all the time, especially after every heart break. I don’t think that I am young at 25, because I truly want to settle down with my partner at the age of 26/27, but you know what? Love comes when it comes. You can’t force yourself to love someone because you think you can. Just take the time to find a love that you can accept for life. You will want a life-long companion rather than a life full of regrets.
#4 Communication is key
Talk! Talk it out with your partner. It’s always important to communicate expectations with your partners and make sure that you both are on the same page. Looking at my parents’ relationship for so many years, I truly believe a successful relationship/marriage can only be built on constant communication and trust.
#5 Observe how your partner treats others
This is a very important point, and in fact, is crucial, especially the way your partner treats his/her own family members. Your partner is going to be all goody-two-shoes and sweet to you during courtship but notice how he/she treats the people around him/her. It will give you an indication of how you will be treated in future. If he/she is nasty to his/her family members, think twice. Just imagine one day if you become family!
I hope the advice helps you in finding THE one for yourself! Cheers to real love~
With love,
Roanna