I was brought up by my grandmother. Even though we don’t really share really personal things with each other, we both know that we know each other very well.
We’ve been through the hard times and the emotional times. My grandmother is like my parents, she plays 2 roles, my father and my mother.
I think my personality and character is somewhat similar to her. I am stubborn, hot-tempered and soft hearted. Both of us hate hurting other people’s feelings. We would rather suffer than say or do something that makes people sad. And this is a bad thing because we have this built up frustration inside us where we don’t tell anyone and eventually one day when we burst, it destroys everything. I think this is why Simon says I’m a very extreme person.
My grandmother taught me the importance of being a kind person, a patient person, a helpful person, and a hardworking person. She taught me the importance of having savings. In fact, she didn’t need to teach me actually because I grew up witnessing it all. She appears to be fierce and naggy but she is selfless and very forgiving.
One of my goals in life was to give her a better life, to provide more and to let her live happier without stress and unhappiness. I can never get tired listening to her stories because I learn so much from her stories and I also know how much she has sacrificed for her children and how far she has come. She let me realised how important is it to have savings, how scary it is when you need money but there is none for you to use. She taught me the importance of being independent and she also supports gender equality.
She is very supportive. She knows I am fickle minded but she lets me do what I want.
In a way, my grandmother helps me to stay motivated too. When I find that life is unfair, I will look at her and try to be contented with what I have. When she was my age, she was suffering. I shouldn’t be complaining when I have everything I need now.
Previously I wanted to move out badly, but now that I have already moved out, I get worried and I miss her. I make it a habit to go back home once every week, but recently, I’ve been so tired I go back once every 2 weeks instead. After I recovered, I will start going home every week again.
I think it’s important to spend more time with your parents and grandparents because they are your best friends and pillar of support.
I celebrate Mother’s day with her too because she is also my mother. :) Happy Mother’s day Ah ma, can’t wait to see you again!
*My grandma don’t like me to post her photos so I’m sorry that I can’t post any. :)*