I asked my community of very open-minded friends to tell me what they wish they knew before they engaged in their first orgy. Here are 20 of the most useful tips gathered:
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Orgies are not at all like what you see in Porn flicks. In fact, they are often more muted and less action-packed.
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Do not do something you are not relaxed with. If you do not wish to be dual penetrated or kissed or jerked off, you can just say no.
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Shit happens literally, so if there is a chance you are going to have anal penetration, ensure you douche correctly beforehand.
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Definitely, know your safe words.
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Stimulation overload can completely happen, and it is not forever fun, so don’t hesitate to take a break if you require one.
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Do not let your defined sexuality get in the way. This is your chance to explore without judgment.
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Do not let what others think or what they do get in your head. No one is judging you if there are there too.
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You will know pretty quickly if the orgy is a correct fit for you, so trust your gut feelings. You can leave anytime.
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Know that partaking in an orgy is does not mean that you will be having such type of sex forever. It may be just a one-off thing and that's fine too.
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If you are feeling left out, say something. You need to be in charge of your experiences at an orgy.
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Ask yourself if you will still be approving of this orgy experience in a month, a week or even years down the line.
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Do not assume they will have condoms, please bring your own.
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If you go with a boyfriend/husband/lover, figure out if you are actually ok with watching your partner fool around with others.
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Know your STD level and those around you. Be responsible.
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With that said, always do consent check-ins before you begin.
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Being part of an orgy means you may not be attracted to all present, but try not to let that ruin it for.
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Ensure you and the other people involved actually wish to have group sex.
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Bodies are weird and people are awkward, so it is 100 percent OK to laugh during sex.
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And of course, know that orgies will be much messier, exhausting and smellier than you would ever expect.
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Make sure all those in attendance are of legal age, verify this. Otherwise, you could face a huge legal shit storm after.